Friday, January 31, 2014

恭贺新禧 Happy New Year!


 The most important holiday for Chinese around the world is Chinese New Year. Although our daughter is not home this year, we honored her heritage and birth country’s traditions, with Chinese take out and some CNY fun.

What is the story behind Chinese New Year? Why celebrate?
Well, depending on the story teller, the origins of the celebration will vary but they all include a story of a terrible mythical monster who preyed on the villagers. The lion-like monster’s name was Nian () which is also the Chinese word for “year."  One thing is the same in all the stories though. They all tell of a wise old man who counsels the villagers on how to ward off the evil monster by making loud noises with drums and firecrackers and by hanging red paper cutouts and scrolls on their doors because the evil monster, Nian, is scared of the color red. (Red symbolizes fire and wards the evil off.) The villagers listened to the old man and conquered Nian. Each year, the Chinese recognize the “passing of the Nian”, which is the same as celebrating the new year, hence… CHINESE NEW YEAR!

The date of Chinese New Year changes each year because Chin@ uses the lunar calendar. The lunar calendar is based on the moon’s orbit around the earth so CNY will always fall on the second new moon after the winter solstice. In contrast, our western calendar is based on the earth’s orbit around the sun.

The holiday is about a week-long now. Traditionally, it is a 15-day holiday during which firecrackers are lit, drums can be heard on streets, red lanterns glow at night, red paper cutouts and calligraphy hangings are hung up in doors, and then concludes on the 15th day.

What are the traditional customs for families during Chinese New Year?
The holiday is traditionally linked to honoring the household, ancestors and heavenly gods. It is a time to be with family and relax from work.
Spring cleaning is common. The Chinese will clean out their homes during the holiday as a way to break up the monotony of the long winter months.       
Many families travel far distances. Known as Chunyun (春运), or the "Spring movement", a huge movement takes place where many families travel through large crowds to get to their villages.
Children are also given red envelopes with money or candy in them and some are placed under their pillows to open on New Year’s Day. Many cities around the world also hold Chinese New Year parades.

Food is an important part of the celebration. Traditional foods include nian gao, or sweet sticky rice cake, and savory dumplings, which are round and symbolize never-ending wealth. Yummy!
So, what does the Horse predict for the Pig and the Rabbit in 2014?
2014 is the year of the Horse. Those born in 2014 are said to possess good communication skills, be full of cheer, seek success, are talented and popular, and are stubborn.

Michael is a pig and this is what the horse advises for him, “Stop being such a control freak! You don’t need to plan every last detail!”
I am a rabbit and this is what the horse advises for me, “Don’t be discouraged and follow your dreams.”

Hmmmmm…

A few inspirational proverbs to ring in the new year:
  • Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.
  • "I heard" is good; "I saw" is better.
  • Make happy those who are near, and those who are far will come.
  • He who hurries can not walk with dignity.
  • If you want 1 year of prosperity, grow grain. If you want 10 years of prosperity, grow trees. If you want 100 years of prosperity, grow people.
  • If you want happiness for a lifetime; help someone else.
  • A closed mind is like a closed book; just a block of wood.
  • Blame yourself as you blame others; forgive others as you forgive yourself.
  • If you hurry through long days, you will hurry through short years.
  • If Heaven made someone, earth can find some use for them.
  • Forget the favors given; remember those receive.
马年大吉
"Best wishes for the Year of the Horse" from our family!
 
Lia Grace, we love you more today than we did yesterday, and we will love you more tomorrow than we did today. We are patiently waiting for you baby girl and pray that this will be your last Chinese New Year without your family. 
 

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

"The Wait".... 7 weeks since LID

"You see, faith opens the door to God's promise for you. 
And patience keeps it open until that promise is fulfilled." 
~Kenneth Copeland

 
We have entered the next phase on our journey to Lia Grace.  Unfortunately, this is THE hardest and THE worst part of the whole process, and we knew it would be. There is nothing for us to do but wait. There are no papers to chase, no appointments to make, no visits with our social worker (until after she comes home), nothing. It's just hard. Bottom line. 

 
What are we waiting for? We are waiting for "the call". The call that will change everything for both a little girl waiting in Chin@ and our family waiting here. The call will come from Denver but exactly when will that call come? We don't know. (If you thought I was attached to my phone before, well, I'm a bit obsessed now-ha! *winks) 

 
There is good news though. The waiting continues to grow us.  We are confident in and trust in His timing. We know that He knows who our daughter is and we know that He has a plan for her. Even though there are days like we feel like we have been "forgotten", as we watch others receive their referrals, we remain faithful and know what He will deliver what He has promised to us. 

 
We have plugged into the most ah-mazing adoption support groups ever, and we have met even more wonderful families. We have watched families grow,  and rejoiced from afar, as they have received their referrals, and we have grieved with families as they have tearfully had to return files. We have been able to share words of encouragement and minister to them in times of their grief, knowing just how hard saying no is.

In one of the adoption groups I am a part of, we have "secret pals". The purpose of a secret pal is to provide encouragement through monthly gifts and encouraging words, even though their identity must remain a secret. My first package arrived from my pal last week and this is what came:
I can't wait to read these ADORABLE books to Lia Grace!
The best part is that I have been eyeing these books for her! :)

So, as hard as the waiting is, we will remain patient. God is still on the throne,  He is in control, and the door is still open.